Wordweaving – The Science of Suggestion

Wordweaving™ is a style of hypnotic language developed and used within Cognitive Hypnotherapy by Trevor Silvester of The Quest Institute.

Historically, most hypnosis was done by taking the client into a deep trance through systematic relaxation and internal focus. Once in a deep trance the client was given suggestions to counteract the problems s/he were experiencing.  Some people experienced more difficulty entering deeper states of hypnosis and the sessions could fail, it can also take a significant portion of the session to reach the required state. The upshot of this is that only one piece of work could be addressed each session, assuming the client could be hypnotised, and unless the procedure was done exactly right, the outcome might not be reached.

More recently, hypnosis tends to be more ‘conversational’ using light trances where the aim is to work on the same issues using conversation as the main tool together with techniques that create the mental states required to effect change.

Wordweaving™ was created to guide hypnotists easily to creating the light trance state required but also to be highly targeted in terms of the suggestions given. Suggestions are designed to be carefully aimed to address the context of the client’s problem. Client problems are maintained by certain chronic trance phenomena, such as amnesia, and regression (being hijacked mentally/emotionally to an earlier period of your life, rather than being present). By identifying and utilising the specific trance phenomena we provide a counter spell able to counteract the mischief done by whatever force created the problem. The third area of focus for Wordweaving™ is the use of the Milton Model of hypnotic language to deepen the trance work and enhance the counter-spell.

Milton Erickson is one of the people most responsible for returning hypnotism to the prominence it has today. He described great hypnosis as being ‘artfully vague’. The vagueness helps create the trance, the artful, ensures the vagueness is still targeted. What Wordweaving™ does is ensure that the words are as artful and bespoke as possible. This increases its effectiveness and helps to modernise the overall protocols involved.

The best resources for learning more about Wordweaving™ are Trevor’s own books and the on-line course available from The Quest Institute store.

Suicide and Young Gay Men

There’s a disproportionate number of young gay men committing suicide. Very disproportionate. If the figures from Stonewall’s 2011 study of gay and bisexual men is to be believed 27% of gay and 38% of bisexual men said they had considered taking their own life in the previous year – this compares to just 4% of heterosexual men. And this was a big survey – 6,861 respondents from Britain. It gets worse.

Of the respondents, 3% of gay men and 5% of bisexual men had actually taken steps to take their own life in the previous year. Apparently the comparable rate is 0.4% of all men. It gets worse.

What if we look at just the young men? 10% of gay and bisexual men aged between 16 and 19 actually took steps to take their own life in the last year. 1 in 10. If you go to a gay bar with lots of young gay men, look over into one corner – proportionally – all the gay men in that corner took action to kill themselves last year. If that doesn’t shock you, there’s something wrong.

We could spend hours debating the real reason for this: coming out early, coming out late, permissive society, disapproving society, too many rules, not enough rules, too much drugs/alcohol, not enough, too much internet use, not enough, freedom to be gay, not enough freedom to be gay, too many gay role models, not enough,  too selfish, too selfless, being able to marry, not being able to marry, too much coddling, too little, too much religion, not enough. I hope that clears things up.  Certainly, I’ve heard arguments for all the above.

We could ask those young men what’s wrong but most people aren’t good at giving you reasons when they’re an emotional mess.  Frankly, it could be your phone running out of charge that can push a vulnerable person over the edge.

Here’s what I think.  Think about the changes that most of these men are going through in their teenage/early adult years (most of which only apply to young gay men):

  • they are coming out (to mixed reviews!)
  • they are going through the difficult years that follow from puberty
  • they will likely have their most emotionally charged relationships and break-ups in this period
  • they are becoming independent and usually separated from their usual unconditional emotional support
  • they are more likely to have moved from home (young gay men move to the cities, actually they run…)
  • they are experiencing drugs and alcohol for the first time.
  • HIV infection, or constant fear of infection

It’s a lot to deal with for people without enough life experience.  These young men haven’t learnt yet about how to be emotionally resilient. The people they are attached to emotionally and provide emotional support (friends, parents, teachers, lovers) can, and do, suddenly remove that emotional support and even reject them.

Drugs and alcohol are huge problems for young gay men.  They lead to risky behaviour that leads to guilt and regret.  But worse, they lead to huge ups and downs, often days later.  So a normal day might feel like an unbearable weight, for no apparent ‘reason’.

Generally, we all learn to be emotionally resilient over the years – at least to some extent.  The question is whether we manage to do this in time and without too much damage along the way.  Thankfully this emotional resilience can be learnt through CBT and/or Cognitive Hypnotherapy. These are also good ways of dealing with excessive drug or alcohol use, as can issues of identity and self-worth.

And sometimes, people just need somebody to talk to.